Wednesday, May 6, 2009

With this ring

At last we get to the whole point of this madness, the ceremony!

I wanted to start with a overview shot (sorta) of the beginning of the ceremony. If you are wondering what in the world is up with the empty chairs in the front row, let's just say it's a REALLY long story we don't want to bore you with the "drama" of it all. So instead, let's say it looks like Prince Charming and the Prince don't get along and needed some separation....NOT what happened, but can't trash the new in-laws this early deal..... As to the empty seat on the right, that is where Princess INSISTED we place the memory frame with photos of my parents, my brother, and Mr. Princess's sister. She wanted them up front and center so it would be like they were still part of the ceremony. Nice gesture and theory, however reality was if one of us even caught a glimpse of it we started bawling like a baby. Not really what you want in the midst of the happy occasion.

Oh, and yes, despite what all the wedding sites will tell you no one died here from sitting in chairs that didn't match. And yes, we carried them up to the deck for the reception too. Look a bit weird, yah but we frankly don't care.

Finally, the ceremony begins with some lengthy explaining of why we are here, the various symbols the couple have chosen to include in the ceremony, etc. See, we didn't have programs for this casual affair either. Did anyone care, maybe, but when Mom is chief cook-bottle washer-hostess-baker-planner-set up committee-floral designer-matron of honor-and who knows what else-programs were pretty low on my totem pole of must have items.

This seems to best capture the likely moment that this young couple finally realized the gravity of this whole situation. The moment when you suddenly think, wow, my life is no longer just about me.....

The Princess takes a look, and she knows it is exactly what she wants.

Notice Mr. Princess is still not quite sure..........

But then he takes her hands and gave her a wink. Pretty sure we all let out a sigh of relief at this point.......

This hasn't got a thing to do with the story, just like the view thru her veil.

Not sure what in the world was happening here, but the look on her face makes me laugh.

So, in addition to the usual exchange of rings and vows, they chose to include two other forms of expression of their love. First was the Covenant of Salt. Personally I had no idea what in the world this was until she explained her father had done this at his wedding (no, not ours) and she liked it. In a nutshell for clueless ones like me, in the remote past salt was a precious commodity that was only available to the well to do etc. So, as a symbol of love, the couple would each take a few grains of salt from a common dish to share with each other as a token of love, wealth, and happiness. I found a beautiful crystal butterfly dish at a local thrift store (50 cents), filled it with salt, and placed it upon a lovely handkerchief sent to Princess by Lynn at The Vintage Nest.

Now, I have better photos of this taking place, but this is my favorite. See I used coarse salt in the dish, and intead of taking a speck of salt, they licked the tip of their fingers and whatever stuck is what they gave the other. I could see the large amount of salt they were exchanging and just knew they were going to be sorry.....................

Yep, for the next two hours no matter what they ate or drank they tasted salt!

Then came the unity candle where you light separate tapers to then use to light a single larger flame. Well, outdoor weddings and candles frankly don't mix. I had great plans for a hurricane vase to shelter the flames, but it didn't happen. Lucky I instead included two long reach lighters in my prep boxes that were placed on the table.

They did each get these to light, but would not stay lit to then do the larger candle. They used the lighters, same idea and it worked like a charm. Of course Princess had to explain how to use the child proof lighter to her Mr. first..............

Now, if anyone is planning a wedding, let me share this. We spent days, weeks, months searching stores, internet etc for candle sets they liked. While we found several, the prices were simply ridiculous for three darn candles. Finally about two weeks before the wedding we went to Michaels where Princess saw this large candle on clearance. She liked the color and the vanilla scent it had. We tried to find matching tapers, not happening. So, at JoAnne's we found these pearl tapers also on clearance. I added some scrap ribbon left from other projects in the wedding, stuck it to the candle with several small rhinestone brads thru the ribbon, and poof, a custom unity candle. Price for everything candle related=$5. The holders we found on clearance for like $5 as well. Trust me, you will not find a set of unity candles anywhere for this price that you like. It literally took me longer to find the ribbon scraps than it did to assemble the project. Another small note, the tapers did not want to stay upright in the holders in any way. I had some floral clay on hand and we just stuck a couple globs of it in the holder and the pushed the candles into the clay. Worked like a charm. I imagine you could to the same with any slightly sticky substance you have around the house in a pinch. For about two second I even contemplated using playdough.......then I remembered Princess is 19 and we didn't have any, darn it! Another thing I learned in this wild experience-stay away from any aisle, website, or any other such thing labelled wedding! You can find the same darn roll of tulle in the fabric section instead of the wedding aisle for 1/2 the price. Same goes for candles, ribbon, silk flowers, photo books, pens, you name it. Some genious figured out if they slap the word wedding on the label they could jack up the price for the sappy idiots planning their ideal weddings. Just flat nonsense folks. So, unless you have an unlimited budget for a wedding, do yourself a favor and stay away. Look at magazines etc for inspiration but do not cross that imaginary line in the store with the aisle marker that says wedding. If you do, don't say I didn't warn you!

As you can see, Gidget was getting a little bored with this whole wedding nonsense. It was her nap time don't you know? Gotta love her necklace though don't you? Clever Princess bought this stretchy bracelet a few years back for a bling collar for the spoiled dog, yeah we know it isn't exactly safe as a collar, seriously, how much danger can a dog get into when all she does is ask to be held?

Wow, who would have guessed that clearance and sale silk flowers could look this good in photos too?

OK, Gidget we'll hurry this up a bit. On to the rings!

With this ring, I thee wed......

The pastor had us place the rings on his bible for him to bless prior to them each taking the correct rings to place on their fingers.

We were doing just fine until Princess started reciting her vows and her voice cracked. I started to cry, she started to cry, Mr. Princess started to cry, Mr. Princess's mom started to cry....well, you get the picture.

Lucky Mom had tucked a clean tissue in my bouquet just in case. Even luckier was that my friend had tucked one in hers which she sacrificed to me..........

Ok, enough bawling already, you may kiss the bride!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I now present to you, Mr. and Mrs. Princess!

At this point the wedding party retreated back into my humble, messy abode for a quick rest. The guests proceeded to begin the mass move of chairs and began to enjoy a refreshing cold drink.
The happy wedded couple were also in dire need of a drink after the salt ordeal as well.

I think this shot of Princess shows exactly how every bride feels when the long awaited moment is finally over and your new life begins.

I was secretly wishing for a nap at this point myself! But nope, come on kiddo, we gotta make this day legal!
Off to sign the marriage certificate!

Now, a good wedding planner would have remembered that since we asked for shots of the signing, you might want to have a pretty pen to use. Not Mom, never once crossed my mind or one of my endless lists of things we needed. Oh well, the pastor's pen worked just fine.

Mr. Princess took his turn. True confessions now. See the large candle? See the large cracks? Yup, that's why it was on clearance, and why dumb old me thought who cares it is the back and no one will see. Little did I know the photographer would stand behind the arch for photos. Oh well, notice too the ribbon is crooked in the back.......hell. Second confession, see the nice ring on Mr. Princess? A loner from the jewelry store. The bought rings prior to the last never-did-happen wedding, but two weeks before the wedding, they both went and bought new rings. His is titanium and had to be ordered in his size since they can't size them. They gave him the show model with a metal ring sizer in it to wear. Mighty nice folks at Jarod's I might add. Yep, just like the commercial, sigh, he went to Jarod's..........awww......

OK, Mr. Princess, she is all yours. Treat her with love, kindness, and respect or else!

Now, let's get this party started people, put on your dancing shoes!


Lynn@ The Vintage Nest said...

I have my dancing shoes on and can't wait for the next installment. Lisa you crack me up. I loved reading every word of it. xo L

CatHerder said...

All the pics are so beautiful!!! Great the "veil" pic..oh and of course the doggie pic! :-) You must be very proud! said...

Congratulations on gaining a new family member!